So as a woman we find we have been programmed from years of advertisements that getting lingerie is a treat for the special someone in our lives. I say a big F@#& that and glad women are empowering women now and moving away from that mind set. I was shopping with a friend recently and I had not bought lingerie for a while and was in one of those treat yourself moods so I did. My friend was looking at a smoking hot body suit and she said there was no point getting it as she had no one to wear it for. Being the friend I am I said well that’s bullshit the one person you should be buying it for is YOU. You like it, it makes you feel sexy, it makes you feel hot and empowered buy it for yourself.
I feel lingerie can be a self power move in the sense that knowing what we are wearing underneath our clothes can make you feel confident and sexy. We need to retrain ourselves from years of misogynistic advertising that lingerie is only for a mans pleasure. When I get up in the morning I sure as hell dont pick my clothes or undies thinking about what a mans going to think. I think about what is going to make me feel good. It could be sweats and a t for comfort or a cute dress. I choose what will make me feel good that day.
In saying all this though there are still men that comment on what I am wearing or how I look when out and lets just say when I call them out on their misogyny it does not go down well. I normally say something along the lines of “I did not realize I would be seeing them that day, and I should have had my crystal ball that a stranger had decided that I should be wearing something different”. Doesn’t go down the best as these types of men don’t like woman that speak up. Times are changing but woman still are not treated as equals by many and feel our clothes and bodies are free for them to pass judgement/comment on. I will continue to call out these men that find me fair game to make comments as they are the problem.
Do not let others or lack of others decide what you wear or feel about certain articles of clothing. I got two new sets recently and love them both. I am also a photographer ever working on my skills and they made me feel good so I took some self portraits. We should all embrace what makes us feel good. The confidence I get from wearing a sexy little number under my clothes brings out my cheeky side and makes me feel more alive. So treat yourself and get things that make you feel good, that makes you feel empowered to be YOU.
Nadia E Westbrook Creative 