Being single for a long period you always hear from people around you, oh you will meet someone, there’s someone out there for everyone. The truth is I like being single I find it easier and I’m happy with my own company and it just being my child and I. It would take someone very special to make me want to invite someone into our life.
There is a point in dating you do meet someone and think hey this one is something else…… I want to take a chance on this one. For someone single for so long and as a single parent it’s a huge leap of faith. It’s not just you, you risk getting hurt but also your child if they meet and get attached to this person. The fear of my child getting hurt by getting attached to someone and then leaving scares me more than myself getting hurt. In 4 years of being single I have only risked that once and allowing that vulnerability to really let someone in.
I’m the type of person that wears my heart on my sleeve I am honest, sassy and loyal. I am always open about what is going on in my life as I prefer people know me, no hidden layers just me in all my quirks and sticky life truths, it is a risky vulnerability. One I would rather take than hold back and have someone fall for only part of me then run when they see me in all my messy splendor.
The truth is everyone is a mess, everyone has a past, everyone has an ex. I think moving forward it’s how much weight you allow those things to invade your thoughts and feelings as to how much they affect your future. I have had a ridiculous amount of stressful things happen to me the past 4 years while being single but, I still push forward, keep positive the majority of the time and I choose how much I allow things to get to me because I have the power over what I allow to hurt me.
I think finding that strength is why I have finally started taking a chance on falling for someone. I have dated taken on the tinder battlefield and tried many of the apps. As a person I am always working on myself to be the best version of me. I think that’s why compared to the first blog I did about dating called dating is a battlefield back in August 2018 this is more positive than my jaded buy some cats blog post haha. To be honest getting cats is always a good option but it’s not the same as a deep human connection.
Taking a chance can be daunting and being vulnerable can be scary but also exhilarating. However things turn out taking a chance has made me feel alive, made me realize I can be open to something and that is a gift in itself. Life is taking one big chance after all. This year has a lot in store for me and I’m ready to take on it all no matter what the outcome as I want to live I don’t want to just tread water.
So for all those people in the same boat as me in singledom taking on dating and meeting people you have the power over what you want to do or not do. Life’s too short to not take chances let’s live, be free and enjoy what comes our way while having the power in ourselves to decide what chances we take as only we decide what breaks us and what lessons we will take on.
Nadia E Westbrook Creative 